^it was from a camera phone so not the best quality or duration.

how long have you two been living together? maybe the reason why he’s so quick to shut down the browsers is because he’s not used to living w/ someone that could “catch” him.

i wouldn’t worry about it until it starts affecting your relationship and intimacy.  some fantasies are better left in the mind… but if either of you feels like there’s something lacking, then i would definitely talk to him about it.

porn has nothing to do with you.

and it’s not a problem unless he is watching it so much that it affects his like (late to work, no more friends… etc)… or he is doing something illegal.

tenjay - 25 February 2008 12:51 PM

next time you two get down, tell him you want to make him feel like a porn star and see where he takes it.

i watched some porn with my gf and it was a strange experience.

how was it a ‘strange’ experience? was she turned off or on? And how about you?
Is porn one of those things in which men prefer watching alone?

donut - 26 February 2008 08:25 PM

how long have you two been living together? maybe the reason why he’s so quick to shut down the browsers is because he’s not used to living w/ someone that could “catch” him.

i wouldn’t worry about it until it starts affecting your relationship and intimacy.  some fantasies are better left in the mind… but if either of you feels like there’s something lacking, then i would definitely talk to him about it.

we’ve been living together for almost 3 years. So I think its more the ‘comfortability’ factor of watching something that I might not approve of?

tenjay - 26 February 2008 10:50 AM

maybe she should let him film her and he can watch that?

sparklehorse, you’re not in hk are you?  there’s not the same stigma of having a sex tape in the us like there is there.  anybody catch the 10 second clip of maggie q with edison?

we’ve done the filming thing… not in HK. But I want to see the 10 second clip. HAHAH how come it was so short ?
And why are these celebs filming themselves.... they should know what will happen…

i share a video, now it’s your turn!

link to maggie q

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i tried to watch but its asking me to download porn membership, but thanks…
HAHAH you’re funny. I don’t think my guy would like the sharing....

A lot of your fears can be dissolved with simple conversation.

1) Those “fears/scary thoughts” you have should be discussed immediately.  They will only cause doubt and will tear you apart.

2) The underlying reason of WHY he’s looking at porn is an unmet need.  It doesn’t mean that if you aren’t that “thin white girl” that you have to become one, it means that you need for him to know what he wants, so he doesn’t have to go searching for it online.

3) Guilt is a factor, or he wouldn’t turn it off/hide it; he feels that you would feel inadequate because you’ve been together for so long, but he’s still turning to porn for sexual stimulation, rather than you.  He doesn’t want to hurt you, but doesn’t know how to communicate that to you.

---As far as trying to become a sex slave in order to try to keep up with his sexual fantasies, forget it.  You will always be playing a game of catch up....not to say that it wouldn’t work, it’s just that it’s a lotta work----and that’s time and energy that could be used more productively building the relationship, on more than just a sexual level.

If he hasn’t jacked off in front of you, it’s going to be weird, regardless of whether or not there’s porn involved. 

sparklehorse26 - 29 February 2008 01:55 PM

donut - 26 February 2008 08:25 PM

how long have you two been living together? maybe the reason why he’s so quick to shut down the browsers is because he’s not used to living w/ someone that could “catch” him.

i wouldn’t worry about it until it starts affecting your relationship and intimacy.  some fantasies are better left in the mind… but if either of you feels like there’s something lacking, then i would definitely talk to him about it.

we’ve been living together for almost 3 years. So I think its more the ‘comfortability’ factor of watching something that I might not approve of?