Just curious to see if any of you date/have dated someone who shared nearly nothing in common with you and still have a successful relationship. Are lifestyle similarities important to keep a relationship going?
^ my last ex was the perfect example. had not much in common. Just good chemistry, and she was amazing in bed.
but that was about it. And after breaking up, I felt guilty for dating her in the first place, since I didn’t have long-term prospects with her at all.
Just curious to see if any of you date/have dated someone who shared nearly nothing in common with you and still have a successful relationship. Are lifestyle similarities important to keep a relationship going?
“nearly nothing” can be ok if the “nearly” part is good enough.
depends if the other person has a complex
about the differences that lie beyond “interests”.
i think it’s easier to compromise when you’re younger.
and the hardest part of growing up--not just alone but
together with another person, is the reality that you
both have to face not just within the relationship, but
external factors that affect the relationship.
as reality sets in, compromises are harder to make.
different goals, or interests or whatever are made
more clearer. and as they become more clear, you
might realise you’re on totally different pages--making
it hard to take the relationship to the next level. or
even just maintaining it.
It’s kinda sad, I’ve had two friends somewhat “drop out” of our circle of friends, because we usually meet up for dinner, and they came out a lot less when they were dating people with weird diets. One girl was some health nut that ate pretty much only vegetables and chicken breast. The other guy had something against Japanese food and always whined about asian food in general. It just got annoying for everyone else to have to cater to them.
Oh, I also think that a significant other who doesn’t fit well into your circle of friends is a bad sign.
^ my last ex was the perfect example. had not much in common. Just good chemistry, and she was amazing in bed.
but that was about it. And after breaking up, I felt guilty for dating her in the first place, since I didn’t have long-term prospects with her at all.
i can’t have a real relationship with anyone who has a diet that’s more restricted than mine.
That’s one problem I’m having, but flipped around.
I’m a vegetarian, she’s not. We disagree on places to eat since I have my places and she has hers, many of which aren’t vegetarian friendly menu-wise. A bunch of other things too, I spend 6 days out of the week either surfing/gym time, and she’s not that type either. I’m more of a morning person and like to get outside, she’s just totally opposite. Sucks cause I totally love her personality, but it’s frustrating to not have any common interests.
It’ll stay that way unless she adopts my hobbies. I’m not giving up my lifestyle to sit at home and watch chick flicks or go shopping lol. Definitely not shopping.
Every relationship has its compromises. But if you’re compromising 90% of the time, it gets tiring. Do you really think you want to/can do that in the long term?
You could be friends with a girl with a great personality. Unless you have problems keeping your pants on.
^ my last ex was the perfect example. had not much in common. Just good chemistry, and she was amazing in bed.
but that was about it. And after breaking up, I felt guilty for dating her in the first place, since I didn’t have long-term prospects with her at all.
and dragonx, the reason why I asked is because the girl I’m dating right now is the first girl who has diet restrictions (she’s lactose-intolerant and can’t eat eggs, etc.).
It’s not that bad. We just eat separate dishes? But on a positive note, she’s making me eat healthier, which is nice.
