Well, he hates her now. So he scoffed & shrugged, and we moved on to other topics at hand. But he’s quiet, so sometimes you have to dig to find out what he’s really feeling.
^ We used to be in college. But I graduated; he’s still there. So we hang out less often.
But he’s a good cat; he’s just a poopy bf because he’s wicked tool-ish (he admits it himself), AND keeps score (which means you can never win against a tool).
I think I’m tempted because aside from the fact she was wicked down-to-earth/out-going, I feel like there’s time to kill..sigh.
the one thing i think when i re-read this is: not that hot, but doable.
Actually, she’s quite pretty. Tall (5’ 8"), but kinda flat. Make-or-break though is that she has a nice, serviceable butt (I was never really a boobs person).
But seriously, no one’s ever done this to a friend before? I’m more curious as to how it paned out for the trifecta.
I’ve had it happen to me before… Twice… With the same ex-gf. I was cool with it both times because it had been years since this girl and I had dated, and we had become very good friends since that time. Had either instance occured much earlier, I probably would not be cool with it. Though, I thought it was funny that both guys (not part of the same circle of friends, btw) never told me straight-up (chicken shit, maybe?), and I had to find out through other means.
But seriously, no one’s ever done this to a friend before? I’m more curious as to how it paned out for the trifecta.
I was tempted once even though he was seeing someone else and had moved to a different state. But I also knew that the breakup had hit him pretty hard so I didn’t. I think the exception would be if the relationship ended positively… that people went their separate ways without drama and the people have been able to remain friends.
My high school ex started liking one of my good friends after I went off to college (they were one year behind me). He never mentioned it and I found out that he knew but stayed away from her from a mutual friend a few years later. You have to respect a friend who would do that.
But seriously, no one’s ever done this to a friend before? I’m more curious as to how it paned out for the trifecta.
I was tempted once even though he was seeing someone else and had moved to a different state. But I also knew that the breakup had hit him pretty hard so I didn’t. I think the exception would be if the relationship ended positively… that people went their separate ways without drama and the people have been able to remain friends.
My high school ex started liking one of my good friends after I went off to college (they were one year behind me). He never mentioned it and I found out that he knew but stayed away from her from a mutual friend a few years later. You have to respect a friend who would do that.
You need to talk to your friend first as part of the unspoken “man-rules.” Even if you did speak to him, it’s probably not worth your time and definitely not worth losing your friend over, unless you really don’t care.
Even if your friend’s not going out with the girl that you’re interested in, if it was a nasty break-up, he may still resent you going out with his ex. Perhaps b/c it’s a reminder of how things didn’t work out? or the possibility that things might be resolved in the future, and you’re now going to get in the way of that?
I’ve never done it, but I’ve had somewhat of a falling out with a friend b/c there was the suggestion that I was macking on his ex. I didn’t have the heart to tell the guy that I thought she was homely so there was no chance of that happening.
